This Too Shall Pass

Have you ever stopped what you are doing to listen in on the stories being spun in your mind? Have you ever considered that perhaps whatever intense feeling you may be experiencing in the moment is meant to be just that – an experience?

Instead of mistaking who we are for what is happening in our lives, what might happen if we agree to view all life encounters, good and bad, as moving pieces that can flow through us? I can’t help but notice that there is a lot of acceptance and joy in allowing ourselves the gift to be breathed by life.

In an effort to discover more about how to approach life in this way, I jumped in to do one of the things I love to do the most. I observe the themes  showing up in my life and the possible learning around them.  I try on the learning, practice a little more, and then I write. I do this as a way to create deeper meaning and understanding of whatever it is I am intrigued by. For a while now, it has been how to experience life from a more peaceful, joyful viewpoint. These are the key points, and learning I have been practicing, perhaps they may be a fit for you too.

Pay Attention

Pay attention to the stories you are weaving. They are most likely creative and detailed and awesome, and they probably feel really real. Our personal chronicles can entertain, bring joy, sadness, frustration, loneliness and so much more. I personally find it inspiring that we are all storytellers in our own right and we have been given creative license to concoct some of the most brilliant tales in the matter of minutes – it’s simply amazing!

What I find most intriguing by all of this, is that more often than not these tales have absolutely no truth in them whatsoever. See what happens when you put your focus on the stories running through your mind for an entire day. Is it possible that some of what you are telling yourself is based on fears and worries, or details that aren’t actually true for you? These stories may be about yourself, about others or about your experiences.

I enjoy checking in on my stories just to marvel at my creativity. Every time I do, I am equally blown away by the untruths in the stories I am telling myself. I actually find a lot of humor in the whole situation. I also feel a wave of relief wash over me when I detach from the story through recognizing its lack of truth.

Paying attention to the stories we create for ourselves, is one of the quickest ways to get out of a funk and instead become centered and present in the moment. I believe we are all equipped with the ability to self-reflect. If we choose, each of us can willingly step outside of a participation role in our life and into an observer role. So whenever you are feeling a little stuck on something for too long, see what happens when you step into your observer role and pay attention to the story you are currently creating. As you do, be sure to check in to see if an element of clever trickery made its way into the story.

You are More

You are not your thoughts, feelings and actions…you are so much more. You are a creator, an observer and a participant of all of your thoughts, feelings and actions throughout this grand life adventure. So create, observe and participate loudly, fully and proudly. But whatever you do, don’t integrate yourself into your creations, observations and experiences.

This isn’t about criticizing ourselves. It isn’t about what we should or shouldn’t be thinking or feeling. See what happens when you are willing to acknowledge the occurrence of whatever is going on for you, and be okay with your reaction, it’s just a reaction, it isn’t who you are.

There is a wonderful sense of harmony that comes when we allow whatever is going on for us to pass through, without attaching our identity to it. We are human and therefore thoughts and experiences exist. Remind yourself often that it is okay for them to exist, you can question them, alter them, embellish them and see the reality before you because of them. Thoughts may turn into things, but you don’t have to become them. You are so much more!

Be Moved

Instead of confusing yourself by believing you have become an experience, feeling, thought or label. See what happens when you shift your narrative. If your story is: I am anxious, angry or frustrated. See what changes when you say to yourself: it is okay to experience anxiety, anger, or frustration etc. They are just experiences.  The same goes for joy, abundance and excitement. There is a lot of peace and acceptance for what is, when we can see that nothing lasts forever.

It becomes easier to open the door to fully experience life’s magic as a willing and aware participant, when we begin to notice how things are fluid. There is room to be moved by an infinite number of other thoughts and experiences eagerly waiting to pass through us.

Have fun with this practice, laugh at yourself often and be delighted at the life moving through you. Above all else, remember that at the end of the day whatever may be going on, good or bad, it will not remain this way forever- this too shall pass.

Believe in Yourself – Emily
#lovinglife

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A Note from Emily

I have committed myself to a lifelong learning journey. I’m grateful to learn about fun and interesting approaches to continually grow and expand my perspective of experiencing life. I’d like to dedicate this particular article to some inspiration I have received through a recent meditation class I took through Red Door Yoga. That combined with some recent conversations with my coaching class through Erickson International, inspiration I received through the amazing book Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert, Mike Dooley’s inspirational teachings and beautiful wisdom passed down from my AMAZING Mom have helped to shape this particular article. I feel blessed for people in the world who openly and authentically share who they are in an effort to make the world a little brighter and more peaceful. Thank you, Thank you, Thank you.

If you are interested in connecting to who you are on a deeper level, or if you would like to create a self-care and self-love practice — come on over and join our growing community within my E-Course, ‘Fall In Love With Your Life, One Week at a Time’. It is a chance to create your own life practice in a way that is meaningful to you.

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Emily Madill

Emily Madill is an author and certified professional coach (ACC), with a BA in Business and Psychology. She is one of Thrive Global’s editors-at-large and a coach at BetterUp. Emily has published 12 titles in the area of self-development and empowerment, both for children and adults. You can find her writing in Chicken Soup for the Soul:Think Positive for Kids; The Huffington Post; Thrive Global; TUT.com; Best Self Magazine; The Muse; MindBodyGreen; Emerging Women; TinyBuddha; Aspire Magazine; and others. Emily has a private coaching practice and an online program, offering courses that support women to create lasting habits around self-love, self-awareness and all things related to time and weekly planning. She lives on Vancouver Island, Canada, with her husband, two sons and their sweet rescue dog Annie. Learn more at: emilymadill.com

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  • Nice one Emily. Lovely to see you doing so well and so happy to see you acknowledging your Mom for adding the Metaphysics to your life. Keep up the good work and let the experiences flow through you.
    Rev. Cheryl Pedley, CIMM

    • Thanks Cheryl!!! My Mom is a pretty cool lady to have as a Mom - that's for sure :) Hope all is well for you. Thank you for your message here :)

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