Confidence Booster Series: Move Through Discomfort and Fear
“You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face.” -Eleanor Roosevelt
This week’s focus is to move through some of the fears and discomforts that can create barriers to happiness and success. I believe that before we can push past something, we must first face the fear or stopping place. This is always so much easier said than done, as it’s far more comfortable to stay safe and complacent in life.
It has been true in my life that some of my greatest triumphs have been on the other side of my greatest fears. It has only been through facing such fears that I’ve been able to experience the feeling of success on the other side.
Whether it has been in writing, public speaking, relationships or running a long race, having the ‘desire to succeed’ has been the key motivator I’ve drawn on to be able to look fear in the face and keep going anyway.
Having the desire to really succeed at something, requires courage and a level of boldness to accept that there is going to be discomfort and fear, but to keep moving forward anyway.
In the above photo, a couple of my gorgeous running partners and I made a pact to run the Goddess half marathon run together. We would start and finish together, no matter what. We all had run numerous races before, the only difference here is that it would be the first time each of us would set our egos aside and run a race purely for fun, together as a team and without having a ‘personal best race time’ as the main goal.
Our goal was to have fun! This required each of us to work as a team, match the pace of our partners and not allow the fear of failure or achieving a perceived level of success get in the way.
It was at times quite uncomfortable and foreign for me to not use my competitive edge to push me through the physical discomfort of a long run. I set this familiar mindset aside, and as we kept going along together I was amazed by the level of fun and enjoyment I experienced running the course with good friends. We snapped photos along the way, shared lots of laughs and crossed the finish line hand in hand.
It was by far not my personal best race time, but it out-measured any run I have ever done as far as how proud, fulfilled and happy I felt at the end. I realized at that point, how much more I enjoy reaching my goals when there is camaraderie and collaboration involved. In my eyes, it felt like a huge success and wouldn’t have been possible if I didn’t push through my perceived fears and discomforts.
This week, whether you’re on a solo gig or working together as a team, dig deep and find the courage to face some of the fears you know are preventing you from experiencing the true level of happiness you deserve. They don’t have to be huge fears or giant leaps. Practice making small steps towards your goals. Each time you do, you will gain the confidence and strength to stretch yourself a little further the next time. Be BOLD and have fun.
Believe in Yourself – ❤ Emily
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