Confidence Booster Series: Acceptance
This week’s focus, like the previous ones, is an ‘inside job’. There is an incredible amount of power and joy that comes when we put our energy into building ourselves up. We make room for self-acceptance when we stop expecting external forces and other people to fulfill us.
I believe we are equipped with everything we need, right here and now, to embrace who we truly are. We don’t need to wait for validation or acceptance from anyone but ourselves in order to go ahead living authentic, fulfilling lives.
I see acceptance as coming to terms with what is; rather than having expectations that something needs to be different before it can be acceptable. I believe this also applies to self-acceptance. In order to truly accept ourselves, we need to ‘let go’ of the belief that we must first change things about ourselves before we are worthy of acceptance.
This can all sound a bit easier said than done as the way we ‘talk to ourselves about ourselves’ is often a deeply entrenched pattern that can be difficult to break. I believe when we are willing to be really honest with ourselves about what we need on a daily basis, we can begin taking the steps to fulfill our own needs. When we take the steps to make ourselves a priority, we open up to creating new patterns that are empowering and lead to self-acceptance.
One thing I have found helpful in being more accepting of who I am, is to be mindful of my language and how I talk about myself. When I am being really self-critical, it doesn’t feel good. If I’m not careful, it leads to more self-defeating behaviour that creates a downward spiral. When this happens, I’ve learned I have the power to re-group and start a new pattern. I make the commitment for the entire day to consciously stop myself in my tracks if I say unkind things about myself. It also helps to re-phrase my language with a positive twist. Like most things, it doesn’t take long before this more constructive way of talking to myself turns into a new habit.
Honouring ourselves on a daily basis through the way we talk to ourselves is a simple yet effective way to boost confidence. On top of that, give yourself permission to do the things you know will fill you up. It could be daily exercise, connecting with others, or enjoying quiet time. Remember that each of us holds the key to experiencing personal happiness and each of us is worthy of having just that.
This week, have fun doing at least one thing every day that is just for you and you know will bring you joy. Also, practice using encouraging language that will give you a boost. You may be amazed at the powerful effect this can have on your mood and outlook. Have a wonderful week and remember how AMAZING you are right now in this very moment.
Believe in Yourself – ❤ Emily
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