Confidence Booster Series: Strengthening Your Inner Bond
“The most powerful relationship you will ever have is the relationship with yourself.” – Dr. Steve Maraboli
This week’s focus is to strengthen the inner bond you have with yourself. You are the one you spend every waking moment with, so you might as well spend those moments feeling strong and sure of ‘who you are’ and rooted in the value you represent.
It is so common to put other’s needs before our own and to spend our days immersed in activities and tasks that keep us disconnected from ourselves. Putting our individual needs first is often frowned upon and viewed as being selfish.
While I am definitely a work in progress in this department, I do believe that self-care is the most important gift we can give to everyone around us. When we take care of ourselves first, we can show up healthier, stronger and clearer to best help others and share our unique gifts that will brighten the world.
I have spent more time than I care to admit making apologies for who I am. I’ve been sorry for my successes, my failures, not meeting expectations others have had for me, or for the ones I’ve placed on myself. I believe there comes a time in life when we have to wake up and take responsibility for ourselves and become our own advocate.
The world does not benefit from us apologizing for who we are, nor does it profit from us showing up smaller, weaker or burnt-out because we’ve spent too much time scared to share who we truly are. I have learned that being less than who I am, in an attempt to make others feel better about themselves, does not actually help anyone.
Taking the time to practice self-reflection is an amazing tool to strengthen our inner bond. When we have a strong sense of self, we are more apt to take responsibility for ourselves. When we are living from a place of accountability, we are more likely to feel in control of our happiness and less likely to look to sources outside of ourselves to fulfill that void. When we are honest with ourselves and can accept all of the traits that make us unique, a huge weight is lifted.
It is liberating to love yourself and admire all that makes you who you are. Our individual strengths, imperfections and things that make us vulnerable and unique are all worth owning. When we have a strong inner bond, it is easier to look at ourselves with humor and lightness. We are also more likely to share who we authentically are with others because we won’t be looking to others to define who we are, or who we are not.
Once you ‘accept’ your imperfections, nobody can use them against you, including you. I love this quote by Walt Disney:
“The more you like yourself, the less you are like anyone else, which makes you unique.”
Those are definitely wise words to live by. This week, have some fun doing the things that will help strengthen your inner bond. It could be journaling, exercising, connecting with nature, giving yourself permission to unplug or just listening to what that inner voice is asking for. You are worth giving yourself the gift of time. Investing in yourself will make the ride and journey way more fun.
Believe in Yourself – ❤ Emily
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