Confidence Booster Series: Shine On
“Nothing can dim the light which shines from within.” – Maya Angelou
Never dim your light for another, and steer clear from anyone who wishes to dim yours. This is inspired by something I recently heard that stopped me in my tracks and really made me think. Have you ever allowed the opinion or words spoken by another cut you to your very core? Sometimes adverse messages that influence us aren’t from people we know and they aren’t even personally directed at us. Perhaps they are expressed through media sources or images displayed in magazines; nevertheless, their cutting effect is the same. Anytime we allow something outside of ourselves make us feel less than we are, it’s a problem.
I will speak for myself and say that I can certainly relate to shrinking in response to other’s words, actions or opinions. As a writer, I understand first-hand what it is like to receive a crushing review or to have my work rejected. Even though there have been roadblocks along this journey, there have also been many positive steps forward, great reviews and shows of support. It can be easy to lose sight of the progress, and if I am not careful the negative feedback can stand out. Thoughts about giving up can start to creep in, and I can begin to dim my light in response to things outside of myself, ‘IF I CHOOSE’.
The great thing I am learning is that nothing can force me to be less than who I am. When I am presented with anything negative, I get to choose whether I continue to show up authentically as who I am, or whether I decide to be a shrunken down version of myself. The version I choose is solely up to me. Nobody gets to make that decision without my permission.
Our capacity to shine is endless. The light and essence of who we are comes from within us. Our belief in ourselves is what will cause us to ‘shine on’ or ‘shrink down’. Dimming our light or shrinking in response to negative gossip or opinions held by others isn’t going to lift anyone else up.
Nothing good comes from being less than who we are. Choosing to ‘not’ live up to our full potential doesn’t result in someone else shining brighter, and it certainly doesn’t help anyone around us. We are much better off to use negative thoughts, stories and opinions as fuel to shine our light brighter and embrace who we are. We are all worthy of living fully and standing proud.
It is empowering to view criticism as constructively as possible and be open to any learning or growing opportunities it may provide. It is also important to consider the source. If it is coming from someone who is being unkind or is ill informed, then it is ‘their private business’ and what they have to say doesn’t actually concern anyone but them.
Nothing hurtful anyone has to say, whether it’s directed at you or not, is ever worth using as fuel to prove a point or hurt others back. Doing so, will only drag you into the fire.
On that note, this week steer clear of negativity or anything that may cause you to shrink. If need be, claim your power and choose to focus on thoughts and evidence that support you living your full potential and brightness. Don’t give others permission or power to dim your light. Remember that you are in ultimate control of whether you choose to give up, give in or SHINE ON.
Believe in Yourself – ❤ Emily
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