Confidence Booster Series: Setting Goals
“Setting goals is the first step in turning the invisible into the visible.” – Tony Robbins
This week’s focus is to put your goals in motion. There is nothing quite as empowering as the moment you realize you’ve ‘reached’ your dreams. So often, we can allow excuses and self-limiting beliefs to prevent us from setting our goals as high as we truly desire in our hearts.
There are hundreds of things we can tell ourselves about why we will never actually achieve what it is we are yearning for. It could be that we feel we don’t have the time, money, strength or support. Perhaps we have allowed ourselves to believe that we aren’t smart enough, talented enough or good enough to have what it is we dream about, that it’s an ‘impossible’ undertaking.
When we live life believing we can’t reach our goals, we will prove ourselves right every time. Not only will we ‘not’ experience that sense of accomplishment, over time we may stop dreaming all together.
I believe we are all deserving of success and happiness. We owe it to ourselves to aim high in life and go after what we truly want. We are meant to ‘live fully’ and experience the many aspects life has to offer.
Often on the journey of pursuing our goals and dreams, we have the opportunity to learn many valuable life lessons that will help us to see that ‘anything is possible’.
Years ago, I had a dream and deep desire to be a part of something that empowers others to believe in who they are. This came from knowing and feeling first-hand how debilitating it can be to not believe in yourself. I wanted to create a resource parents and educators could use to help instill a sense of empowerment in children; that was my ‘initial’ goal.
It turned out this dream I had involved ‘countless’ goals. Over the course of 7 years I published ten books with the hope of, ‘helping others believe in themselves’. Each of these projects was an enormous undertaking. The creative process involved many months of dedication and patience. Some of the projects took well over a year to create. There were thousands of goals that I set along this journey to reach what I originally was aiming for.
I had no idea the amount of time, effort and perseverance it would require to reach my initial goal. I’m pretty sure that if I had known all of this at the time I put my dream in motion, I would have become so overwhelmed I may never have taken that first step.
When we look at all of the ways, steps and unknowns that it will take to reach our dream, we can very quickly lose focus. The bigger the dream, the more daunting it can feel. Often this sense of ‘overwhelm’ can prevent us from ever taking that initial step.
Over time, I have learned how helpful it is to take ‘baby steps’ in the direction of my goals. Instead of worrying about how many steps it will take, give yourself permission to simply take one step at a time. Write your goals down, talk about them with others and create visual reminders of what they are. Then commit to doing one thing per day that is in line with these goals. Remember to celebrate the accomplishments of achieving each mini-goal along the way. This will help to create momentum and confidence that you can and will reach your dream.
I recently had the opportunity to be in the same room with 5 of the children who inspired the characters in my books. It was a surreal experience for me. The children were gathered together to take part in an esteem building workshop and the ‘books they inspired’ were resources in the program. In that moment I suddenly realized I have actually reached my initial dream.
I am still overcome with emotion thinking about it because there were so many times along the journey of the past 7 years that I questioned myself and whether my true dream would ever be realized. I can’t begin to tell you how happy I am that I took that first step and continued along that path to make new goals. Reaching each goal has given me the confidence to continue setting the bar higher. I now believe in my heart that the sky is the limit and it is exciting to continue setting new goals that are big, bold and in line with my passions and dreams.
One of the best parts of setting goals is that as you achieve them, you build yourself up. When you experience firsthand what you are capable of, it becomes fun to continue creating dreams that will ensure a full, happy and satisfying life journey.
When you turn your ‘impossibles’ around, it has a way of opening up the world and allowing you to see your limitless potential.
This week have some fun setting your goals. Remember to make them ‘BIG’ and create visual reminders of what they are. Talk about your dreams with the special people in your life to create lots of energy around what it is you’re doing. Each day commit to doing at least ‘one thing’ that will bring you closer to your dream and remind yourself that it isn’t a race it’s a journey.
Believe in Yourself – ❤ Emily
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