Confidence Booster Series: Perspective is Everything
This week’s focus is to be mindful of the lens we use to view the world. No matter what situation lies before us, we can shift our thoughts and stories to influence how we feel about it. I believe our overall outlook on everything is hugely influenced by our thoughts, whether they are positive or negative. Having a happy, hopeful perspective on life is just as contagious as planting a negative seed that spins itself out over and over to the detriment of ourselves and others around us.
I’ve heard it said many times before that ‘the happiest people don’t have the best of everything, they make the most of everything.’ I believe this is true to my very core. I admit, my first reaction isn’t always to view everything in life through rose-coloured glasses. However, I generally have a tendency to search for alternative ways of looking at things when I realize that my outlook on something is doing nothing but causing me continued pain with no end in sight. The most powerful option that has always worked for me, is to change my mind and view the people or situations that are causing me angst under a different light. It may not be how anyone else views the situation, but that matters very little.
What ultimately matters is how we ‘feel’ about the situation and whether or not the stories and thoughts we create are good for ‘our’ overall well-being.
How does hanging onto a story that is hurtful and damaging to our self-worth serve us? The simple answer is, it doesn’t. Sure there can be some immediate relief in having the sense of ‘being right’ about something we may feel had wronged us. But as quickly as that relief comes, it is gone in an instant and all we are left with are thoughts and pieces of stories that are so damaging to our spirit.
In this light, I feel I have a huge responsibility to make sure the lens I view my world through is one that I can feel good about at the end of the day. If that means shifting my perspective on how I view hurtful stories, or how I view other people’s opinions of me, then that is the one I will try to adopt. The truth is, I can’t control how others view me, life or anything else for that matter. The only perspective I have any control over is my own.
I am not talking about living in denial or being ignorant of situations around us, rather it is about looking for different ways to view something that threatens to poison our perspective and level of happiness.
When the majority of my thoughts feel good in my heart, I know I’m on the right track. When my thoughts live in a yucky place and I feel judgmental of myself or others, I do what I can to shift these thoughts to ones that change my perspective. How do I do this? Often, it’s giving some gratitude for the 98% of things in my life that are going well, instead of focusing and obsessing over the 2% that isn’t at the moment. I remind myself that if I don’t, the 2% can very quickly grow to be a 200% monster that is much harder to tame.
There is always a way to shift our perspective. It can be giving a difficult person in our life some compassion and empathy for the struggle they are experiencing, rather than taking their negative outlook to heart or adopting it as our own. Sometimes changing our thoughts and outlook is easier said than done, especially when these thoughts are based on our deep-rooted beliefs. However, when we look at our views under the scope that our life, happiness and health is at stake, it can make the shift that much easier to initiate.
So this week, put on your happy goggles and practice viewing situations around you in a way that is going to serve you. By doing this, you are not only giving yourself an incredible boost of confidence, you are also helping everyone around you by sharing your light.
When we think and act from a confident and content place, others around us will receive value from that. Our thoughts really do translate into our actions, words and behaviors. What better gift to give ourselves and the world around us than the gift of a positive perspective.
Believe in Yourself – ❤ Emily
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