Confidence Booster Series: Live With Courage
“You may never get rid of the butterflies but you can teach them how to fly in formation.” – Author Unknown
This week’s focus is to dig deep into your courage to move you forward into living the fullest version of your life.
Instead of becoming paralyzed by fear, we can lean into it to move through whatever beliefs and thoughts may be keeping us stuck. With a ‘feel the fear and do it anyway’ type of attitude, we can turn those scary feelings into ones that are exhilarating and victorious. By using our nervous butterflies as inspiration to move forward, we can learn how to become more comfortable with this feeling so when we come up against it we don’t immediately stop or limit ourselves.
There is nothing more liberating than proving to yourself that you are braver than you thought you were. It is empowering to experience firsthand that nothing is ever as bad as you may initially have believed it would be. As the saying goes, ‘On the other side of fear is freedom.’ This statement rings so true to me after my recent ‘first experience’ with skydiving.
While I am blessed to do my fair share of traveling and exploring, most of which involves flying, I don’t actually love to fly. I wouldn’t define myself as a nervous flyer, but I don’t really enjoy take off and landings due to the quick acceleration, all of the motion kind of makes me queasy. This is something that has bothered me for a while now. I love to travel and I find that this very real fear and uneasiness influences the whole experience for me, making it less enjoyable.
Moving past this fear is something that I decided I was definitely ready to push through. Skydiving out of an airplane kind of seemed like the ‘ultimate’ way to view the whole flying experience in a new light. I figured if I could feel the intense sensations of free-falling, perhaps it would help shift my ‘travel butterflies’ and nerves into a feeling of excitement and anticipation for the journey ahead.
I was extremely nervous about what I was planning to do for the weeks and days leading up to my ‘skydive vacation’ in Las Vegas. I was so worked up from the thoughts and stories that were running through my head beforehand, that I actually felt physically ill. Fear has a way of becoming all-consuming and creating mountains out of molehills.
I had to dig very deep to summon the courage on the day of my big jump. My stomach was full of nervous butterflies and my thoughts started to become overtaken by fear. I kept reminding myself that there was a bigger reason I was doing this. I attached that bigger reason to my fear and used that as fuel to give me the courage to keep going. By the time it was my turn to take the plane ride up, a surreal thing happened. I actually allowed myself to turn the debilitating fear into ‘pure excitement’ for the experience of a lifetime.
It turned out to be exactly that. After the initial free-fall, the sensation of gliding through the air wasn’t scary at all, it was magical! I was in awe of the beauty before me. The bird’s eye view that I was enjoying was unlike anything I could have imagined. Had I allowed fear to overcome me that day, I never would have seen that on the other side of my giant fear was one of the most incredible experiences of my life.
This experience is one that will keep on giving as I will continue to use it as a very powerful reference point that can be applied in other areas of my life. I figure if I can face my most monstrous fear and jump out of an airplane at 15,000 ft., I can use my courage to do anything in life and apply it to all things, big and small.
I love this quote by Mary Anne Radmacher:
“Courage doesn’t always roar. Sometimes courage is the little voice at the end of the day that says I’ll try again tomorrow.”
It’s true, courage doesn’t always need to be about big things. Jumping out of a perfectly good airplane is certainly not something that everyone will be inclined to do. For those of you out there who are considering it, I will say it was definitely one of the top most amazing experiences of my life so far. I definitely do not regret doing it, and I would love to do it again. It was such a freeing experience on so many levels.
Whether or not you choose to do something extreme like skydiving, we all can choose to live with courage each day that is before us. Try using those nervous butterflies to move forward and eventually it will become more natural to embrace the butterflies.
This week, whatever stopping places you may have created for yourself, practice using your courage to fuel you through it instead allowing your fear to limit or stop you. If you find yourself holding back from doing what you most want to do because of fear, remind yourself that FEAR is ‘False Evidence Appearing Real’. I hope you all have an amazing week, dig deep and Live Large!
Believe in Yourself – ❤ Emily
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