Confidence Booster Series: Kindness
“Kindness in words creates confidence. Kindness in thinking creates profoundness. Kindness in giving creates love.” – Lao Tzu
This week’s focus is all about spreading kindness. It is being kind in our thoughts, in our words and in our actions towards others. My good friend Cheri inspired this week’s focus, she has one of the kindest hearts of anyone I know.
During one of our recent conversations, Cheri told me about how she was experimenting with kindness and how it was having a major impact on her family and on her personal level of confidence and well-being. Each day she set out to intentionally inject kindness in her thoughts, words and actions; particularly in times of stress when the immediate reaction so often does not come across as calm or kind.
Cheri said she had the opportunity to practice using kindness in her parenting. When her children were overreacting or in a heated argument, instead of losing her patience, she would very calmly deal with the situation and talk to them about the importance of being ‘kind’ to one another. The more she talked about it, practiced it and thought about it, the easier it was becoming to adopt a mindset of kindness. In doing this she was also inadvertently being a role model to her family, friends and co-workers.
I found myself so inspired by Cheri’s commitment and have since thought a lot about the ways I could implement a type of ‘kindness project’ into my life.
I believe that when we view just about any situation with an empathetic and kind mindset, it’s easier to see things from a loving perspective. Not only that, when we treat others around us from a place of kindness, it has a way of softening their reaction too.
I believe it is equally true, that when we choose to be ‘right’ or ‘justified’ in a situation, it becomes harder to view things in a kindhearted way. It becomes even worse if we venture down the path of being ‘spiteful’ or ‘resentful’ and point fingers at others in an accusing way. From this standpoint, there is no kindness or love involved, and as such the outcome will not feel good for anyone.
Looking at the choice between these two stances in life, it makes perfect sense to choose the road paved with kindness.
So this week, join me in adopting a ‘kind mindset’ where we intentionally set out to look at situations from a more empathetic, compassionate viewpoint. Every day each of us, whether knowingly or not, will come across people who may be facing their own private struggles. If we are leading with a kind heart, we may change the course of their day, even if only in a small, positive way.
Giving others the gift of kindness is as much a gift to them as it is to you. Opening up to have a kind heart is contagious and uplifting. Have fun with it, the ‘kindness project’ is yours by design.
Believe in Yourself – ❤ Emily
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