Confidence Booster Series: Family
“The most important thing in this world is to learn to give out love and let it come in.”- Morrie Schwartz
We are down to our last couple of weekly ‘Confidence Boosters’. I have thoroughly enjoyed sharing and participating in them alongside you for almost a year now. I have mixed emotions about wrapping things up. I have loved the learning that I’ve gained through creating them, and I will really miss the process involved in writing and sharing these insights and lessons out into the world. I am also excited for the next chapter of creating and sharing I have in the works, so in that regard the process will carry on. I am so grateful for everyone’s support and interest in reading them, knowing that you have been on the receiving end has been an incredible inspiration and motivation in my life – Thank You!
In saying that, the collection wouldn’t be complete without giving special attention to the topic of family.
There is nothing quite like family to showcase the diversity that exists among a group of people. We could randomly pick any family to examine and would quickly see that a broad range in personalities exist. For some, these character differences create turmoil and angst. For others, the unique personalities are embraced and seen as legends in their own right.
I believe that family dynamics have a wonderful way of highlighting that we are all unique beings. We all have gifts, strengths and weaknesses, and we all desire to have love and acceptance from the close people in our lives.
Family gives us the unique opportunity to learn what love truly is. We are bonded to our family, and not always by choice. This special bond is what makes these lessons on love have staying power. When we travel through life with the same group of people, differences are bound to come up. Some families have large rifts and hurts that may never heal, others part ways through divorce or disagreements. The point is, that life and relationships change form over time, but there is always one thing that remains consistent – and that is ‘love’. Love is always there, and when we view our differences through a loving lens, everything makes a lot more sense. With love comes understanding, strength and acceptance for what is.
Learning to give out love and let it come in, is easier for some than others. With family, we have the opportunity to try this out on a continual basis. What makes things so interesting in families, is that the differences and hurts that come up will not change the love. It may alter the delivery, as sometimes it is best to love from afar, but the love and bond will always be there to enjoy or be rediscovered when the timing is right.
The other rich learning that comes with families, is that often in life we adopt our own. Close friends can sometimes become our chosen family and the recurring theme that makes this happen is –you guessed it, ‘love!’
I feel so blessed to have an amazing, eclectic family that also includes several chosen members. Every person in this group is different and equally wonderful. They all own a piece of my heart for different reasons. The gift they’ve given me in my life has always been about love and the different ways it can show up. Having the experience of motherhood, while a topic on its own, is just another example of the gift of deep love. My sons fill my heart up with so much love, it sometimes feels like it could burst. That is something that will never change.
This time of year, when things become extra busy and people sometimes feel forced together, it is important to consider the notion that at the end of the day we all feel the same. Our family, chosen family, friends, strangers and even rivals are all human. We share common ground with others in that we all have a need and desire to be loved, accepted and seen for who we are. When we recognize that everyone struggles at different times in their lives with giving and receiving love, it helps us normalize our experiences and prompt us to let go a little. When we release our grip on our need to be right or the hurts that cause us to suffer, we are in a much better position to open our hearts to the people we are surrounded by. When we ease up a bit, it becomes easier to feel warmth towards others, even those we choose to not share space with.
So this week, as you take part in the festivities and whirlwind of life remember that the people we are surrounded by, even the most difficult ones, are probably feeling the same way we are. If we all approached each other a little gentler and kinder, we would begin creating a wonderful ripple effect of love and change out into the world. I can’t think of a better gift to give one another than that!
I hope each of you has a very merry Christmas with your loved ones. Whether you are together or not, send a little love out to the people in your life, even if it’s just in your thoughts. Have an amazing week!
Believe in Yourself – ❤ Emily
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